I am an African American woman who chose to marry outside of her race.I guess I have become a bit jaded because of all I’ve witness growing up and into my adulthood Every single black women in my family’s lives have been torn apart from their relationships with black men, and I have big family, of all the "drama" abuse, disrespect, unfaithfulness, abandonment, divorce, "non-challant attitude when it comes to the kids, neglect, drug abuse, ect ect. The list could go on and on…in my lady family members.lives. And I’m talking about college educated men! Not all, but most, since in my family a University education was the norm, many met thier black men @Universities. I do have one cousin who only recieved an AA degree and married and uneducated black man, I don’t even want to go to those horrors. He was never around unless he needed money for his crack which graduated eventually to Meth. He would steal money she needed for rent or food for the kids! Their kids lives are ruined, all sorts of emotional problems, suicide attempts, depression, pannic attacks and the like, none of those kids have even thought about college. My cousin was always the bread winner while he spent his money on the latest cool "Tennis shoes", always lived with her, never paid rent…just brought his shoes and clothes with him, never provided a decent place for his family, hardly held a job, she worked herself to death even deveoping heart problems due to stress. One of my Aunts ended up with a "breakdown" when she caught her "high school principal" black husband in bed with a white women.
I’m mot saying that all "black men are bad eggs" my grandfather was a good strong black man, who stuck my my grandmother, was a school teacher with his Masters (as was his black wife) he was a man of respect, dignity, morality, faith, responsibility, integrity, there’s not enough I could say about him! Where are the black men like this?? Have they all died out with that generation??? ( he passed in 2006 @ 92
My grandmother who stayed married for over 67 years to my grandfather always gave me hope in finding a good black man, but it seems they don’t make’em like that anymore.. 
I have tried to date black men in the hopes of marriage, my grandparents who raised me encouraged this of course, but even thy could see that the "pickins" were slim and that I may be better off exploring other options, they became very disappointed in the state of black men in our current society " This whole hip hop, rap generation, complete with the "urban ware" the music teaches such empty lessons that they listen too and are brainwashed with goes directly against traditional family values that holds families, and marriages together in love commitment and loyalty.
I have married a Chinese man, my God! Its like a breath of fresh air! He is soo committed to family, very loyal, treats me like a Queen, wonderfull to our daughter. I don’t have any "drama". He calls me when he’s coming home, tells me know where he is at all times, he major goal is to make me and the kids happy, I don’t have to worry about where he is, who’s he with, what time he will be home, if he will be home, no alcohol, no drugs, he attends church with us 3 times a week @ our local Pentecostal church, about to finish his Nursing degree this semester. Lets me choose to stay @ home or work, what ever I choose. I appreciate my husband so much, not sure if I would have If I had not witnessed what I have with my family and some of my African American friends. I see them getting dogged out time after time, and lend a shoulder for them to cry on..but secretly in my mind I’m thinking "Thank God I don’t have to live in this kind of hell!"
Perhaps this is an option that many more black women should consider…dating outside of their race…I know that Asian men are known for their loyalty to their family, they are very hard workers and high achievers. I know many other black women who have made that move through a "black-Asian" dating and marriage support group. They all say the same thing..they had been "waiting to ex-hale" and finally able to breath.
yes yes yes, there could be some family opposition from his side, but guess what, when you plunge in you find out its all a bluff, they can’t wait to see the grandkids and it all works out. His parents just bought us a $500.00 dollar home all paid for as his graduation present.. 
Ps. when I say "Asian" I mean as in my case "Chinese" but the same goes with Koreans, Japanese, and even East Indians ( I’ve dated in this group when I got tierd of the the "drama"
Where have all the good black men gone???? blk men can you respond too???
Because most black women like thugs (even though they rarely admit it) and most people that act thuggish are black.